Emotional Control - Models, Methods and Principles [Controlul emotiilor – Modele, metode si principii]

Emotions are the underground, so to speak, of the whole edifice of human personality. Emotions shape behavior and gives both, depth and spontaneity, to the individual events. But many times, emotions can contribute to personal failure and the way they are manifested can mark frustrations and losses. Controlling emotions, becomes not only an interesting concept but a demand in personal development. In this paper we present models of control of emotions, methods and principles that facilitate awareness of our own emotional states and diversioning the "corrosive" effect of emotional contagion. Between the models and methods we described in this paper, are: the reactive-responsive orientation (R. Fritz), the "freeze" or stop-frame model (Doc Lew Childre), emotional intelligence (Goleman D.), Thought Field Therapy (R. Callahan) and the learned optimism (M. Seligman). All these means of emotional self-regulation are designed to achieve a complex development of the individual, reaching the emotional maturity. Unfortunately, current education aims not as intensely, the emotional development the same as the physical and intellectual development. This can sometimes be disappointing, since full emotional development provides the opportunity to achieve individual potential. Although it may seem paradoxical, academic education does not replaces emotional development or overcome the emotional infantilism.