Who Initiates the Help Older Parents Give to Midlife Children

ObjectivesOlder parents continue to help children after these children have been adults for decades. We utilize a typology approach to assess who initiates the help. We ask whether profiles of help initiation are associated with how often older parents help and how they evaluate their helping behaviors.MethodsOlder parents (N = 241; Mage = 80.12) indicated the extent to which they volunteered to help children and helped per child’s request. Parents reported their resources and obligation to help, child problems, frequency, and evaluation (rewards/stresses) of helping.ResultsLatent profile analysis reveals four profiles representing parents who are initiators (n = 65), responders (n = 56), initiators/responders (n = 50), and uninvolved (n = 69). Resources, needs, and individual beliefs differentiate profiles. Parents offer the same amount of help regardless of who initiates such help. Parents who are initiators/responders view helping as more rewarding than parents who are initiators and more stressful than uninvolved parents.DiscussionThis study reveals variation in the initiation of older parents’ help and refines our understanding of family help in late life. Findings may suggest a parental expectation for children to be competent in adulthood regardless of their resources and willingness to help.